Barbasol Men's Nights: Learning the Art of True Masculinity

By Michael Auletta, Junior at The Ohio State University

What is a man? Where do we find them? Where can we learn to be one?

In our society, there are vague lines about how we as boys identify as men. Some believe it is the level of success you achieve in life. Others believe this is determined by a man’s physical size, such as his muscles or height. Still others focus on a man’s facial hair. There are different avenues in today’s culture that lead to where a man learns how to be a man. Some of those roads lead to pride and short gains of euphoria.

In SPO we strive to be more than just men. Our goal is to learn how to become men of Christ. One way we build authentic masculinity is Barbasol Men's Night. It is a night where guys can just "bro" out and be men together. First these nights start off with men getting together and participating in a physical activity that challenges each other. Whether that is frisbee, armless wrestling, dodgeball, football, or the causal poker night. These are great ways to hang out, exert ourselves physically, and challenge each other in a safe, healthy, and intentional way.

After the fun, the bros sojourn to Antioch, one of the SPO men's houses here in Ohio, to dig in on a hearty meal. Meals have included steak nights, baked potatoes, burgers, gumbo, or even Thomas Castelluccio’s brisket. After eating and relaxing, we then are introduced into a topic of discussion for the evening about masculinity. These talks have included many different aspects that encompass what it means to truly be a man of Christ, a son of God, and a serving brother.

A wise person once told me that if you want to be good at something, not only does practice make perfect, but you must surround yourself with people who have the same desires as you so that you can keep each other accountable. Men's Nights provide a place where you can meet new guys for the first time and form deep rooted relationships.

So why do all this I just described? Why dive deep into learning how to be a man of the faith? Because being a man has pressure all around it from today’s culture. Men are looked to as leaders in their families, the priesthood, and in the workplace. Men's Nights provide an environment for men to learn true masculinity and help build each other up to become better men of Christ.